My Sweet Single Life

Life is Sweet! So why would life as a single be any different? Why does it seem like everyone thinks of singlehood or “singledom” as a curse? It isn’t at all! We hear often from our married friends, “Marriage is a blessing! When you get married you’ll understand!” Or, “Marriage is such a blessing. I just hope one day you can find a husband, so you can be blessed as well!” Show of hands, how many singles have heard these phrases or something to that effect at least once! I can’t count how many times I’ve heard this. And while, your friend’s and family’s efforts to match-make you or to point out a perfect bachelor for you are probably because they DO care for you, they don’t always understand how that can hinder a girl’s thinking.
I admit, it hasn’t been all that long ago that I thought that there was something wrong with me, that I can’t do certain things because I’m single, that I can’t be fulfilled, or that I need to wait ‘til I find a husband to make my dreams come true.(I guess, that’s why I wanted to create this blog, to help others correct this thought, before it becomes a habit.)
I know, it might have already become a cliché to say: “You can still live your life fully, being single” Or, “You have more time to minister as a single than as a married lady.” While these are true, it seems to be what I hear married people say in order to help us be happy being single. (Please, don’t take me as a hater of married friends. I have so many examples of Godly couples in my life, and they have helped me come to some very good conclusions on my single life, as well as shown me what a godly marriage is like.) But it seems to be, that once people get married, it’s like the wedding erases all the emotions they went through as a single.
As a single I’ve had some of my worst struggles, but I’ve also had some of the best moments of my life. I’ve been able to travel without much worry, to make decisions based on my career and my dreams, and I’ve been able to have ministries that I never could imagine me having time for as a married woman. I have more time to learn about God, to learn a new language, to learn a new weird skill and to cultivate solid friendships that I will have for a lifetime. At the moment, I would not trade my single life for a life with kids, even though it is a dream of mine. Of course, if at any moment God decides to change my single life for a mom/wife life I will be happy and content. But at this time, I want to take advantage of this moment God has planted in my life. If and when the time comes for this switch of lifestyles, then I will also be glad, because my joy is not based on circumstances but rather on God. I want to get everything I can out of the sweetness of my single life!
Life as a single CAN be sweet! It can be awesome, filled with friends and adventures, as well as struggles and loneliness. So, journey with me, as I write about these moments in my life and hopefully help give you hope and some of the tools for a the Sweet Single Life!

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